Talk the Walk First, then Walk IT!

talkin'n'sendin' thought seeds

talkin’n’sendin’ thought seeds

Hope everything is roaring off to a great start for you in this wondrous New Year of 2013! Yesterday was 1.3.13, and much as I tried to get to write a post on that day, I’m happy I’m here today to do one. Life is busy, for all of us.

I want to briefly touch on my feeling very strongly that, in order to make significant change, whether in a person’s own life or with human civilization as a whole, we have to start by conversation.

Here in St. Augustine, Florida, my hometown, we’ve just begun doing this in the area of spreading compassion! Our group meets once a month. Write me if you want to know more about it, how, where, when, format, etc.

Our first meeting (1.2.13) was well attended, and during the course of talking about compassion it struck me for the first time how many people want to know more about how to embrace loving compassion and kindness in their own lives. So they showed up — either by invitation from an e- list sent around, or seeing an ad someone (not me) placed in our local newspaper — to learn more about compassion. Surprisingly, more folks than I ever suspected felt this way, expressed total frustration with our world, especially surrounding environmental issues. That it was “too late” to do anything. That it was too hard to be compassionate in face of a society that doesn’t cultivate heartfelt touches between its citizens. That they’d come there to — just talk about their frustrations about the lack of compassion.

But as the conversation evolved, other people expressed how something as simple as a compassionate smile can change a person’s life. When one person gives another a passing smile, say, a stranger on the street, a store clerk, maybe it doesn’t matter to the receiver right at that moment. But later in that person’s day, the speaker said, it just might make a difference. Maybe the effort of one person’s smile, like the effort of our group sitting around and discussing compassion and love and how to change our world for the better — just might make a difference.

And I believe this difference appears in ways we can never predict. But — every action has a reaction. Every bit of love and compassion, even a smile, counts! So start smiling, friends, and start talking about compassion to your friends, your family, even a stranger.

Just as a smile can uplift a person’s spirit, perhaps turn around someone’s mood, influence a decision, save a life, even — talking about our human society changing to a more positive way is the first step to all of us taking real action that will effect long-lasting change. This is the beginning of transformation. It starts with a thought, a smile, a conversation.

I think I’ll do a special post about how to set up this type of discussion group, “TalkWalkCompassion” … along with step-by-step directions for the (ever-altering) host, and how to get the conversation rolling along. If anyone wants these instructions before I get a chance to post them (I’m still busy with the final edit of my book Global Bliss NOW) please email me at dearlordflea(at)gmail.com

Many blessings to All of You, and stay … in the Light!

your pal Lord Flea

 

Light-heart, Laugher, and Lots of Chocolate: magical ingredients

heart island

heart island

To laugh is to live! Did you know that infants (according to scientific studies) have no ability to discern between the sound and “look” of an adult laughing or crying? Check it out for yourself. Take a picture of yourself laughing and see how similar you appear as when you are very sad, on the verge of tears. With laughter as well as with crying the voice becomes loud and the noise it makes sounds forced; the breath becomes rapid and distressed, and one’s face crinkles up in a most distorted fashion with both emotional displays …. sending mixed signals to an infant. Often the results are surprising, with even a young child of 4 or 5 crying when others are in reality, laughing. Why? Because they confuse the harsh sounds of boisterous laughter with human throes of sobbing. When I first found this out I was struck by how similar all human emotions are, and how extreme they take us to either a “high” or a “low” when they’re allowed to be felt in extremity. A really deep sadness hurts almost enough to want to die. An enormous uplifting joy makes us feel like we’re on an artificial “high,” lifting us right off the ground. Both extremes of the pendulum transport us out of our ordinary selves into an extraordinary way of seeing life. But there’s always the opposite sway of the pendulum: when the extreme emotion is over we usually have the opposite of it to feel as well. And that’s no darn fun. I call this the “rollar-coaster of emotions.”

The word “serenity” implies a balance of emotions, a state in which neither extreme (of despairing sadness nor of hilarious joy) is allowed to rule our passions. Wow! Y’mean we have choices over how our emotions take us over? Well, yeah! But of course this takes practice, believe me. The payoff is tremendous though. To experience the state of “Serenity” is how I feel when a delicious piece of chocolate is melting my mouth, only the sensation of serenity lasts really looooong compared to the fleeting euphoria of Godiva. Try it: go to the mirror and make a little curled-at-the-corner smile. Like the one you always see on statues or images of Buddha. Indeed, this is called the “buddha smile” and this expression is a teaching of how one ought to practice yoga: with a serene pleasant expression on one’s face. Along with the eyesight being steady and fixed on a certain point (to hold steady in a pose, yes, but also to calm the unsteady mind) this is what we yogis call the drishti … our gaze.

Try it. Remind yourself gently to have a pleasant uplifting look on your face. Curl the outer corners of your mouth into a tiny smile. Not an outlandish or fake or stilted one. Just a gentle smile. As if someone had just whispered in your ears, “You are a beautiful person, and I love being with you.”

See how that make you feel! And watch how it makes others feels who you come in contact with throughout your day.

Your pal sending lots of love, laughter, and Lightness, Lordflea